A female person  age 36-40, anonymous writes: My swain and i have been together for 7 months, he still wants us to remain underground while he tells his parents about taking his ex out..when i told him i don't similar him telling about his ex and keeping u.s.a. secret, he told me that, loads of things go through my niggling head and i don't understand him.He said, his parents already know about her and there is no impairment. I experience like he is not sure about me or ashamed of telling about me. He too took her out of urban center as a care for(tuesday) as she is returning to her land,while i stayed dwelling depressed considering on sunday, he accidently came inside me and i wanted go morning time after pill and his business organization for me. He didn't telephone call me at all during the day. Later on in the evening he called me and accused me of being viscious by wanting to have the pill on the same twenty-four hours to spoil his plans.While he had no concerns for me how worried i must have been. He reasoned himself by saying he had no idea i was worried just when i chosen him he ingnored my calls. And everytime i tell him, what hurts, he accuses me of not trusting him but never understands me. View related questions: depressed, his ex, the pill Reply to this Question
Share | Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, anonymous, writes (xix September 2007): You are injure disturbed by what is occurring. I don't blame you lot. Hun, you are emotionally and physically involved with a guy who is still deeply fastened to his ex gf, he ignores your calls and he has never bothered to give yous the respect and honour due by introducing you to his family unit, in the 7 months yous have dated him. This is a difference in relationships values and information technology doesn't help that the ex gf is lurking in the background to prevent him from committing fully to you. Peradventure you need to look at this departure and decided whether this something you lot want in your life. And I am wondering why you are spending your precious time and emotional energy on a guy who treats you lot this, disrespectfully. You seem to not be conspicuously setting some boundaries in this relationship and standing upwards for yourself in a more confident, assertive manner. Y'all most definitely tin do that. We normally desire people in our life, who are good for us and open up to having a mutually, generous, love relationship. Yous don't accept this with this guy. I call up information technology'south time to muster up some pride here and walk away. I remember you want a deep and rewarding human relationship and y'all know you deserve information technology, don't y'all. This guy is not the ane. A female reader, Lil_devil +, writes (19 September 2007):
Hun u need a tell hgm adios! He is trying to push u 2 c how hard u bend. Dont let him. And if that was his ex tham he shouldnt b taking her out.terminate having sex with him! That just encourages him further. Walk the line with sum1 else. much luv lil_devil ............................... A female person reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Oh god this guy is playing you for such a fool and to be honest I practise non understand why you put up with it. Starting time off, why did your bf seem to think it was ok for him to take his ex gf out for a care for when you are his gf? That is crazy. He thinks information technology is ok to treat you like this because y'all permit it. Why on earth are y'all allowing him to treat yous like this? If my bf did any of those things to me, I would dump him. To be honest, the only person I run into to blame here is you. Do you lot take whatever pride? Practise y'all have whatever boundaries? I don't sympathize what yous don't understand about this. You accept accepted and tolerated the fact that he keeps you a undercover and that he basically does any he pleases as if he was unmarried with no consideration for yous. What does that tell y'all? Obviously he doesn't care nearly you like you recall he does. So dump the fool. Don't y'all want to be with someone who treats yous well, who respects y'all, who doesn't cross your boundaries? He has done all of these things. Then leave him. And next fourth dimension Set BOUNDARIES. Don't let people walk all over you, because if given the gamble, they will, every bit you can encounter from your own feel. He has set up all the rules and boundaries in this relationship and you have accepted them all and conformed to them and have set no boundaries of your own. Don't take this the wrong way cause I am trying to help but you are beingness pathetic. Gosh. Need respect. ............................... A female reader, leanne.od +, writes (19 September 2007):
 i defo remember yous need to go out. if he is stuck on his ex, let her have him, don't let them laugh at you behind your dorsum because you are worth and then much more than that. if hasn't got the integrity to prove you lot off and capeesh you, he's non worthy of beingness with yous. you can practice better and you'll find true honey. expert luck. ............................... A male reader, rcn +, writes (19 September 2007):
 Let me ask yous this question. How does your pain accept anything to do with him. Information technology's the style you feel (which generally we have reasons to feel that manner). When you say y'all're pain, he's really stuck on himself to think it just may non take to do with him at all. I think yous can exercise amend than being in this human relationship. He is full of excuses, not treating yous well. Thinking of himself over your wellbeing, he should be ashamed of the way he is treating y'all. I don't know you and feel bad well-nigh what you're going through. Get out him and so he can go play patty cake with someone who'south willing to exist a doormat, and bow to his majesty (right), Stop letting it be you. And as far as the pill goes, doesn't he realize at all that'due south why they named it the "forenoon later" pill and non the "twenty-four hours later tomorrow" pill. Your boy is lacking common sense. He should be caring for you and not cruising effectually with his ex while you lot're at home crying. His accusations are a bunch of BS too. If you oasis't given him reason for them, he should continue his trap shut. Recollect this saying if you recall things will change "The stupid volition remain stupid." ............................... A female reader, stina +, writes (19 September 2007):
 Hello, I recognize your problem - y'all've asked almost this situation earlier. Why are y'all nonetheless with this person? He treats yous terribly. My suggestion is to break up with him for existent this fourth dimension. I don't know what happened afterwards you called him to become your things back, but you can't let it happen again. Don't let him manipulate y'all anymore. I'k sorry, but he is using you. He was able to convince you lot to become back with him somehow - then he slept with you lot. Now he'due south disarming you lot that yous're in the wrong for feeling upset about his ex...once again! This guy is more trouble than he's worth. Quoting from one of my final posts to you: "All this guy does is charge you of things, assume things most yous, go out with his ex late at night when he knows it bothers you, hangs onto pictures of his ex, doesn't introduce you to his friends, has a generally nasty attitude, had y'all requite up friends for him, and the listing goes on. Does this sound like someone who is a good fellow?? God, no!" Do yous retrieve this is really going to finish when she leaves the country? My bet is there will be more than problems. What happens when he visits her? I'grand guessing that would probably happen since he seems to put her before you lot. Accept you discussed this with him - if he plans to visit her? Like I continue maxim - I think you demand to get abroad from this guy. At that place are other men who would treat you the way y'all want to be treated: like a person who has feelings, needs and wants. Yous have to respect yourself more than this - y'all can't allow someone go along walking all over you or your self esteem is going to be shot to sh*t completely and you'll never escape this awful blueprint that's forming in your life. Accept intendance of yourself. Think nigh You lot first. Have care of YOURSELF and don't let anyone treat y'all like crap. You don't deserve it. Take care. | | <-- Charge per unit this reply | ............................... |
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